Figuring out who I could now kiss was pretty high on my priority list once the cacophonous din of divorce calmed in my head. I was 32, just getting out of nearly 11 years of monogamy.All of a sudden I was in a place I’d never been: single, and confident enough in my sexuality to know I could pursue women. The last time I’d looked for a lady with whom I could make out and cuddle the best option, especially in Montana, was knowing other queer people and hoping they knew someone single.Did you know there are queer women in Montana who I don’t already know? The first person who popped up was a mere mile away, and here I’d been feeling isolated in my rural queerness.I accidentally liked the first woman who appeared on my browsing screen because swiping is weird and too easy; it all felt too easy.The app centered my location in Kalispell, Montana (good job, app), but because I’d gotten a month of premium membership (which costs .99), I could change my location.This was a good idea for me, because the Zoe app is relatively new, and in Montana, even with the distance on the app set to 200 miles in all directions, there weren’t many options.
Flip phones became Blackberries and i Phones, and were capable of more and more every time I looked up, and my wife and I grew into two different people.The concept is easy: Swipe right to like a girl and left to pass.You can start chatting once there is a mutual connection.What I can tell you is that no matter how old you are, getting a message that says, “Someone likes you!
” will always be thrilling, and being able to chat with that person pretty much immediately is akin to a miracle.Our relationship stopped working and the marriage ended.