Pitfalls of dating after divorce
Make sure that you're sensitive to their feelings and to their needs.
You can tell them you're seeing a friend if the children are toddlers.
"If you're stuck in comparison mode, you can't appreciate your date for who they really are." Comparisons can also become a tool of self-sabotage in the relationship, so make sure you master the temptation of falling into this trap.
If both of you are doing this, it can lead to a dead end for both parties.
If you feel like your emotions are still raw after the divorce, and you're going into the dating scene full-throttle, back off the breaks a bit.
Don’t be concerned about the timing or the pace of things, just decompress about it more.
"Notice when you're doing it, and acknowledge to yourself what's going on," said divorce lawyer and author Erik Newton.After years of being in a relationship, putting yourself back in the singles market could make you a little overzealous.Being fast and furious will lead to burnout and people are not always ready to move fast in a relationship.With older kids, they might be upset because there could be a hidden hope that you and your spouse will be remarried and they might feel betrayed.
Be sure to encourage your child that a new partner doesn't mean there isn't enough love to go around and if needed, talk to a family therapist for further guidance.
Yes, your ex-spouse might be in your life because of the kids, but OMG, no one wants to hear about them all night.