Also, I have a women's studies degree and I say it's whack.Being obsessed with men's height — in a way that you'd never obsess about any other one of their qualities — is bad for women, bad for dating, and reinforces a society that says physical traits we can't control are more important than who we really are or what we achieve.When you date a guy who's around the same height as you, a kiss can just be a kiss, no step stools or pulley systems required. When I was dating around, I found the idea of dating a super-tall guy who had never had to ask a sales associate to help him get a box of Cap'n Crunch down exotic; but I'm glad that I settled down with someone who gets me on every level — including the level where I'm in a constant state of rage about how all jeans are too long for my legs.I had a long relationship with a dude who was 6'2" — a whole foot taller than me. A recent study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine found that guys under 5'9" had sex more often than their taller counterparts. When I met my boyfriend, I assumed that he'd be sensitive about the height thing, and resigned my extensive and expensive heel collection to the back of my closet, switching them out for Converse and flats.
I'm sure you're familiar with the situation — I salivated over any dude who was over six feet, even though, at 5' 2", being with a tall guy just meant that trying to kiss each other while standing up was not unlike trying to parallel park a compact car. And I was far from the only woman who found herself drawn to tall dudes for reasons she never quite thought through.
All facts that ring true to me — my dude pulls his weight around our house, and was game to date me even though I was 28 and he was 24 when we met.
Though the paper didn't delve into why this disparity exists, I think we might be able to chalk it up to empathy.
Are we saying that we believe that it's sexually ideal that women take up as little space as possible, that we're at our most attractive when we look itty bitty compared to our male partner?
You don't need a women's studies degree to know that that's whack.
It has nothing to do with height, unless your main sexual fetish is being carried back and forth across a room, over and over again.