Dating not settling
Because yeah,"we accept the love we think we deserve" — shout out to some Perks of Being a Wallflower wisdom. Because you're being mean and shallow and why can't you see what a great thing you have? As pointed out in Psychology Today, we adapt the fallacy that our worth is tied up in our ability to find a mate.
Your heart is too special to be wasted on someone "who's nice, but..."It's almost easier when the person is a total asshole and serves you all the reasons to end things on a silver platter. We think we aren't complete until we find our other half.
But tune in to when these sideways glances are actually just a search for a way out.
As pointed out on Her Campus, if you find that you’re trying to convince yourself that you don't have it that bad, then you probably don't have it that great, either. But why would you need to think of situations in which you’d be worse off if you were already happy?
We're not writing a list of pros and cons here at a middle school slumber party.
As pointed out on e Harmony, making excuses for a partner or anything questionably negative in the relationship is a definite sign you're in something you probably shouldn't be in.
Again and again one had to abandon them or they were taken away. That was the reason he had lived alone— when one was on the move one should not have anything that could bind one. Of course you know you should never settle for less than you deserve.Yet after any prolonged period of dating dry spells or just straight up relationship failures, you may have thought to yourself that you're just doomed to a life of being forever alone. Second of all, there's nothing wrong with being single and being picky in dating isn't such a bad thing.Maybe you just can't help but notice how much happier others seem together, you're envious of all the cool things they're doing together, or they're just so compatible.
If you were with someone you truly wanted to be with and cared about, these things wouldn't matter.Or at least, you wouldn't be noticing them on such a grand scale.